tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post4573291505240818249..comments2023-10-15T10:55:42.537-05:00Comments on This That and the Other Thing: Women's Week: Cougars?RAnnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04102249990885174107noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-86268340806631206682010-02-18T18:41:56.413-06:002010-02-18T18:41:56.413-06:00Susan, I didn't hate the book, and it did get ...Susan, I didn't hate the book, and it did get me thinking, and that's not a bad thing. I also like stirring the pot periodically and seeing if I can get discussion going, and this seemed like a good book with which to do that. Thanks for the giveaway and it's been nice visiting with you this week.RAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04102249990885174107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-41745365334039391972010-02-18T15:17:41.501-06:002010-02-18T15:17:41.501-06:00Ruth, it wasn't my job to convince you of anyt...Ruth, it wasn't my job to convince you of anything or change your mind-set. The Cougar Club is fiction that's meant to entertain and take people out of their own lives for a little bit. I realize quite clearly that you didn't like the book, so I can't say a thing that'll change your mind about how you feel. I happen to disagree with you about the characters, of course, but that's life. You're entitled to feel whatever you want. Again, thanks for doing that contest! It's been quite interesting visiting with you this week! :-)Susan McBridehttp://susanmcbride.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-45093924489797454872010-02-18T12:23:14.044-06:002010-02-18T12:23:14.044-06:00I'd never heard the term "Cougar" un...I'd never heard the term "Cougar" until I was offered this book. My research told me it was a woman who exclusively dated men much younger than herself. It is just my opinion, but I think there is a difference between a woman (or man) who goes looking for, and exclusively dates, those much younger and one who happens to meet and fall in love with someone much younger. Yes, there are good guys out there in every age group, and someone who is "much" older or younger at one age is "about the same" at another, but if the purpose of this book was to convince me that love between a younger man and older woman could work, you failed. The guy the doctor is with has possibilities (though you have to wonder how he is going to feel about never having kids of his own) but the rest of the men in that book are nothing but overgrown children.RAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04102249990885174107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-20703091810466028812010-02-18T10:39:03.921-06:002010-02-18T10:39:03.921-06:00I totally agree with Michele! Good guys are good ...I totally agree with Michele! Good guys are good guys, no matter their age. So why is it such a big stinking deal if a woman dates a guy who is younger than she is? And many older women aren't just doing it for the sex, I guarantee you. It's hard to find a guy you click with when the dating pool gets slimmer and slimmer as we age. That's just a fact of life. Some of us who are labeled Cougars (and are amused by it more than anything!) actually were pursued by the younger men. I had never dated a younger guy before I met my husband (who is 9 years younger and an amazing, upstanding guy). That's what inspired me to write "The Cougar Club," because there are plenty of women in their forties and older, branded as "Cougars," who are really just living our lives, working hard at our professions, feeling good about ourselves, and apparently attracting younger men (or in my case, a younger man who became my husband two years ago next week!).Susan McBridehttp://susanmcbride.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-69872160328141871592010-02-18T07:20:47.081-06:002010-02-18T07:20:47.081-06:00I don't know any cougars and since I'm onl...I don't know any cougars and since I'm only 6 mos older than dh I don't count either :)<br />I think women who date men that much younger are looking for their own youth or they're looking for power - men they can control because of their immaturityReneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08739029410584701609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-64009942818835689562010-02-18T05:23:55.577-06:002010-02-18T05:23:55.577-06:00I don't know any cougars personally either, bu...I don't know any cougars personally either, but I AM highly amused by your Google ads this week - this was the top one today:<br /><br />Older Women Younger Men<br />Older Women Seeking Younger Men. 100% Free. Join Now!<br />www.DateACougar.com<br /><br />More seriously, once most men hit their mid-20s/early 30s, the ones that are going to be stable will already be stable. Those that aren't will remain jerks into their 50s. So personally, I'd rather wind up with the stable younger guy than the older jerk. I see a cougar as the female equivalent of the guy I work with who only wants to date younger women.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04306275747304783618noreply@blogger.com