tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post5464804679293795660..comments2023-10-15T10:55:42.537-05:00Comments on This That and the Other Thing: My Take on Attachment ParentingRAnnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04102249990885174107noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-29671302528838381592015-07-10T23:10:22.523-05:002015-07-10T23:10:22.523-05:00I had people raise eyebrows at me because I let (a...I had people raise eyebrows at me because I let (actually I made) my sixth grader walk home from the school bus stop a whole half mile from house--on the other side of this nice middle class subdivision. Could something have happened to her? Sure, but it could happen to me when I walk the neighborhood too, but I don't stay locked in the house. RAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04102249990885174107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-16915026771081165662015-07-10T21:41:07.883-05:002015-07-10T21:41:07.883-05:00RAnn, Thanks for visiting my blog! I find your str...RAnn, Thanks for visiting my blog! I find your straight talkin' post hilarious, and you make some very good points here. I especially love your description of what life was like when you were a kid, back in the day before "intensive mothering" became the vogue. One of my favourites: "Our bikes were for taking us places, not for riding in circles up and down the street under the watchful eye of Mom, or going for a ride with Mom or Dad at our side." How true!!Ambiance Paintingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15029679733561609587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-91380373836208418502013-03-19T14:48:03.199-05:002013-03-19T14:48:03.199-05:00I remember this post when it first came up, and I ...I remember this post when it first came up, and I think it was the first time I'd ever actually thought about all this, so thanks!Kathleen Basihttp://www.kathleenbasi.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-19483209084886665202008-01-15T22:43:00.000-06:002008-01-15T22:43:00.000-06:00I never said Mom wasn't home with the kids in the ...I never said Mom wasn't home with the kids in the old days. According to a cookbook I'm reading now, in the middle of the 19th century, 90% of Americans lived on farms--and my guess is that a large percentage of the others lived behind the store--where Mom and Dad both worked. Not only was Mom home with the kids, so was Dad. My point is that the kids were not Mom's only job, and that my grandmother and her foremothers were no more capable of the intensity of attachment parenting than I am. I agree with you about homeschooling.RAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04102249990885174107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-87760316768251009062008-01-15T21:30:00.000-06:002008-01-15T21:30:00.000-06:00I disagree with your prespecitve. I think that wo...I disagree with your prespecitve. I think that women have traditionally cared for their children at home. Yes, they had things going on at home- they were busy- but they were home with their children. When my mother was ill - my grandmother- who did the books for their business- was home to nurse her to health- and did not worry that she would have to juggle sitters to get back to work.Now non family cares for and brings up the family's children. And yes, I do feel that someone who spends 40-70 hours a week has a profound influence on a child (including a teacher at a later age).<BR/>I feel our present system does not support children. I also feel that "working parents" make "non working parents" feel SO guilty about staying home that homeschooling has bloomed as "what to do because you are worthless if you do JUST stay home".<BR/>I do not really care if a woman works or not- but I think your historical perspective is one held by working outside the family women and not a real 5,000 year perspective.<BR/>Personally, I don't know how this will turn out- but one clue may be the putting off until mid to late 30's to have children- so someone can stay home. That is what I am hearing from my nephews and nieces. I know it definately has promoted birth control in that group (because they certainly are living together). And when there is a baby before an adult is 30 there is a collective sigh of "you blew it!"<BR/>From one working woman to another....Janettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10054888725603183006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13263155.post-32805580556153126412008-01-15T08:13:00.000-06:002008-01-15T08:13:00.000-06:00Ruth,I needed to read this post today! I am so to...Ruth,<BR/><BR/>I needed to read this post today! I am so torn over leaving Ben Jr. and working full-time again, and am really hoping to stay home through September so at least he will be on foods other than my milk. It helped to remember the historical perspective... and while I may still look for work that I can do here at home, at least I feel a little better about maybe needing to work outside of the home. Thank you!!Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12485216934319394999noreply@blogger.com